I am fortunate to live a very blessed life. I have a roof over my head, a wonderful husband, a goofy little dog, and the ability to stay home and raise my amazingly awesome son. I would say I live a good life; a happy life. However. We all have those days. Those moments. I am here to let you know that you are not alone! Life is not all sunshine and roses. But the fact is, when we are ready to throw in the towel, there is one thing that can change even the worst moments. Happiness. One simple word that I did not fully grasp the power of until my son came along.
My son is three years old, and he is an absolute chatter box, which I love. He will gibber jabber to anyone who will listen, or many times even just to himself. Sometimes it’s reenacting something he saw on tv, sometimes he’s playing pretend, sometimes it’s full on conversations with himself and many times it’s just absolutely hilarious to listen to! I knew from a very young age that he would be a talker. He said his first word, “Bob” (our dog) at seven months old. Of course everyone thought I was crazy and just hearing things; there’s no way he could be talking that young! By his first birthday, he had approximately twenty words in his vocabulary and within months he was putting words and phrases together and forming short sentences, and really took off from there. He also happens to be the happiest person I know.
Sometimes his words really stick with me. He has one particular phrase that he repeats often and it has really resonated with me, and hopefully you too. “Let’s just be happy.” Four simple words. So simple, and yet so meaningful. It is his ‘cure all’ solution to any problem. Whether he’s being a typical threenager; having a tantrum, not listening, or doing something he’s not supposed to be doing, or if something is just not going his way, he just wants to move forward afterwards and “let’s just be happy.” If I am upset for any reason, related to him or otherwise, he just looks at me with his adorable smile and says “let’s just be happy” and I simply melt. It is his apology and his sense of relief; a gift of love wrapped in four little words.
Life is crazy. No matter what season of life you are in, I am willing to guarantee you have suffered through some sort of hardship, trivial or otherwise. Maybe it’s the death of a loved one, maybe a fight with someone, maybe something as simple as spilled milk on the floor. The truth is, on a daily basis we all have bumps in the road, myself included. How we choose to handle them is entirely up to us. Now I’m not saying “throw caution to the wind” and abandon any sense of consequence or responsibility. What I am saying is that we can all learn something from the sage advice of a three year old.
And my son has his moments too, believe it or not. One morning in particular that sticks out to me; the day was off to a disastrous start because his “bagel was broken.” The tears came, followed by a full on melt down. But when the dust settled he picked himself up off the ground (quite literally, as toddler tantrums usually go) and moved on. Bagel be darned, we were going to put it in the past and have a great day!
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could roll things off our backs as easily as a toddler? Wouldn’t it be nice to forgive and forget almost instantly? Wouldn’t it be nice to not dwell on the past, but instead look towards the future? Wouldn’t it be nice to abandon all other emotions and just be happy, no matter what life throws at us? I’m here to tell you it is possible.
Happiness is a choice we make every single day. Life is not perfect, things will go wrong, bad decisions will be made, and we will probably get some battle scars along the way. We cannot control everything in our life, but we can control our own happiness. By learning to let things go and move on, we can enjoy a much more fulfilling life. On the flip side, if we hang on to the hurt and pain of things gone wrong we risk losing a part of ourselves so important to our survival: our happiness. Don’t dwell on these less than perfect moments in life, or they will come to define you. Choose happiness. Choose life. Choose you. Move on, forgive and forget and no matter how dark the day looks, find the silver lining. Find your joy, find your happiness, hold on to it and don’t let go!
“LET’S JUST BE HAPPY”
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Ask yourself: “Is this a big deal or not?” This is one of those ‘get real’ moments that I talk about so often. Take a step outside of yourself. If it’s not a big deal, then don’t let it turn into one and ruin your day.
Choose to Let it Go
You have a choice. Let those words resonate. In a world of uncertainty, happiness is a choice that you have the power to make. By letting go of whatever is bothering you, you are choosing the path to happiness. If you can’t let go, you will spiral down a much darker path and become consumed by it.
Find Your Joy
Find what makes you happy. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Share it with others. Happiness spreads like wildfire; it is the greatest gift you can give to anyone, so pass it on!
Change Your Circumstances
If you are truly not happy where you are in life, change it. We are only given one precious life, treat it as such. There is no need to get swallowed up in a sea of unhappiness.
It’s All in the Attitude
Happiness is all in the attitude. If you think today is going to suck, then guess what? Today is going to suck. If you think today is going to be awesome, then it’s going to be awesome! So when life throws you an inevitable curveball, you will be ready to tackle it head on! Happiness is not something tangible; it is a mindset, a way of life. And the best part is: it’s free!
It’s such a simple concept, “let’s just be happy.” Toddlers have the most amazing perspective on life. We should all strive to live more like toddlers (without the tantrums and bed wetting, of course), and embrace their mindset. Live with energy, forgive often, love fiercely, find the joy in everything, and most importantly, “let’s just be happy.”
This is a conscience effort we need to make every single day, myself included. I challenge you to learn to not sweat the small stuff, learn from the big stuff, and move on with the right attitude. I would love to hear from you… how do you find happiness in daily life?